Healthy Narcissism?
It is no walk in the park to have a relationship with a woman with chronic body image problems. However, it can be worse to not have a relationship with a woman who is extremely pleased about her looks. Looking at a Blog post from Dave Winer caused me to see the photos of ethlite—and the subject of narcissism appears in these ethlite theories:
- Let’s try the most straight forward profile. Since she calls herself a pole-dancing philosopher on her Blog and we assume she lives in the United States, then she is simply an articulate “genetic celebrity” enjoying her rights to the secrets of sexual power: “It is no secret that women’s primary advantage over men is her sexual power.”
- She leaves me with the impression that she can live in some form of isolation and really, really enjoy herself by just thinking about what others think about her. She may even delight in the misinformation about her. Say, for example, we might think she is heterosexual and she gets so turned on about our incorrect assumptions.
- She does strike me as a bit mature in years to be writing like she does. But I’m sure there are many who can say the same of me.However her maturity produces very interesting passages. This one was very interesting to me:
Up until fairly recently, it was customary for Chinese to acquire and change their names throughout their lives. First they have a register name, which was what’s recorded after birth. Then they have a “milk name”, which is used during childhood, followed by a “school name”, which is used during their period of adolescence. Then finally a “courtesy name” which is acquired upon adulthood and used in every day conversation. See this wikipedia entry for a famous Chinese leader under Names section for an example.
In contrast, most people in the West think of first/given names as merely labels you can address other people with. Since they are not unique, have no specific meaning and most importantly—are given to us by our parents before they had any idea what we are like as a human being. But dig a little deeper and you'll find it's not quite as simple as that.